The burnt facts...

Imagine you hire a cook & give him/her a room at your place to live. You keep him/her as your family member , you make his/her family feed the bread & butter. You help him/her in the family occasions. You stand by his/her side financially, mentally & physically in the hardest of the situations ! What is the state of your mind when the same person claims the house to be his/her on the grounds that he/she has been staying in the same as long as you ! Devastated & emotionally broken, you would knock the doors of the law of court. The court puts a stay & issues notices on that person & just to create a hype that person goes to the commissioner to set his/her family on fire if their demand is not fulfilled ! Unfortunately if the the hype & humbug turns out to be reality with some external influence ! The heights of the situation creeps in when the same person blames you to be the reason for committing suicide.

One would definitely loose faith from humanity. One would not think of helping anyone in the dreams as well ! The word "trust" would definitely get evicted from one's dictionary !!

The same thing has happened in the recent case of the city Rajkot. The society who has fed the family by keeping in mind the feeling of altruism ! But when would these people have thought in their wildest of the dreams that the same people would stab them !

How a responsible member of the society feels when someone starts building a house on the public property ! He tries & becomes the owner of the land of the society's land ! From the family of two , brings the family of 25 on the society's plot & tries everything out to owe it ! He will file a complaint & take help of law & justice ! The same things were done by the responsible, educated & law abiding citizens of the society ! But the publicity stunt of setting self on fire has superseded the facts ! Moreover the unfortunate death of 5 people due to wrong execution of the stunt has set the facts aside ! It has taken new turns !

No one is bothered to check with the facts! The only hype is that , when someone has set self on fire , he would be right ! But where is such thing written !!! Who has said the dying man states the facts only , moreover when they were stating & blaming the responsible society members , they were not actually committing ! It was just an attempt & mistakenly converted into reality ! On these grounds four members of the society are sent on police remand for two days & will be sent behind the bars from today onwards. They are being charged for a non bailable warrant of provoking suicide ! No doubt whatever happened with the family was wrong ! We feel pity for the family ! We are agonized with the unwanted deaths of human beings ! But what is the fault of those four working members of the society, who were actually the bread & butter of that dying family ! They did everything for betterment of society & did everything which was legal & under the purview of law !

It has been said in great holy books that the biggest help is the help of shelter & food. ! The society did that but what happened ! Unfortunately they lost their food, shelter & peace ! Everyone knowing the facts is anguish today ! But the political & social pressure has set them back ! They are shocked ! Truly shocked !

Had anyone of us been at the same situation , we would have behaved in the same manner ! We have been taught to fight injustice ! We have been taught to be right with right people & wrong at wrong people ! But only being taught on paper not being taught to implement ! Everyone doesn't have the audacity to stand against injustice !

Wish that these burnt facts comes to the eyes of the people & once again RIP for those who lost their lives.

Rgds,
Nirav Ajmera

Abhi Mujh Mein Kahin Baaqi Thodi Si Hai Zindagi...Love you "Ahmedabad"

Greetings......

What is attachment ? What is affection? Very difficult to put it in words. Very difficult to describe. Today's blog is a devotion to the affection to something very special. My real affection & love for the city "Ahmedabad"

It is almost 7 years now since this city has been obliging,loving, caring & teaching me. When I came to this city for the first time, I was a kid,was damn immature !

June 2006 : admission in new college. The life was very different then. A confused & being challenged me ! The first gift of this city was the confidence. It taught me , to be confident! Confident for what I do , for what I believe !

The gift no two is my buddies, my room mates! My other close buddies ! I never thought that someone can be so close to us! Someone can understand us more than us ! Someone can protect us , as if they are our parents. Someone can stand by us when we cry & can spend such precious time ! Someone can show us the right path !

Gift no 3 is the ability to love blindly ! Ability to love unconditionally ! Importance of forgetting self in a relation & see a broader picture ! Ability to cry for someone whom we love ! Actually it is difficult to cry out ! One needs to have the courage to cry !

Then the gift no 4 is the courage to trust someone & even bigger than that was the courage to face the situation of being ditched after trusting someone blindly. The biggest of all, is the re ability to trust someone after this.

It taught to understand the value of a relation & to be honest & true to the relation. importance of parents in life. It has taught me to be right with right ones & wrong with the wrong ones. It has taught me the ways to be ethical in political environment !

This has taught me to cook, clean, wash clothes & what not. Though one would find the extent of this trait to be the least at my home at Ahmedabad ! :p
It has taught me to earn my own identity.

This has taught me to learn from my own as well as others mistakes. No doubt this city has made me cry many a times, it has made me sad too many times but at the end this is the same one which has given me strength & ways to come out of it & to be happy !

I can still remember some special days spent here. Remember the days of winnings/achievements & the days of failures ! Have seen the days of extreme happiness & sadness as well. Seen the days of love & days of hatred & cheating as well. Have seen tremendously true people & also have seen tremendously shrewd people.

This city has really made me understand the meaning of life, it has taught me to enjoy the life to the fullest extent ! Really this city has miraculous air in it. The water of sabarmati is really worth appreciating !

Really , my affection to this city is impeccable ! Though after describing this much , I feel that I am still not doing justice in praising this city !!!!

For me the heaven lies at the Latitude 23 03 N & Longitude 72 40 E ! Don't google it ! It's nothing but Ahmedabad !

Love you "Ahmedabad"

Rgds,
Nirav Ajmera

Knowing The Stranger!!!

Greetings !!!

It was a day of fun & so was the entire week. The week stared with Shrads birthday. My lovely sister turned 25 that day. Just married & got the surprise party from her companion. Surprises are always special , one realizes the importance in someone's life.

The week had less work & stress free period in stored for me at the office. The countdown has already begun for the last working day at this organization. The nearer the day comes the worst it feels. Emotional attachment of people & place is making me feel lame. But we should not forget that the growth is of prime importance in our life ! Finally,The week ended with excellent movies at home, family gathering & dinner at a beautiful theme restaurant with family. Hence it was a happy happy week !

This week was special due to another purpose as well. The week has opened up certain changes for me in life. Certain permanent changes of life . After the new job hunt, it is now partner hunt. It actually brought a lot of anxiety with reference to what I want from life & what I want for the entire lifetime ! Lots of brainstorming , lots of introspection has happened during this week. Tried hard to find out the faults of self & tried to change them till a lot of extent. It is a very big decision of life, one needs to introspect & must get mentally ready before taking this decision. One needs to be crystal clear about what he/she wants from the partner & what he/she is ready to give in return.

Next Sunday is the day when I am going to meet the first one of my life. Lots of anxiety is there , lots of confusion is there ! I have no clue what I will say ! The only clarity that I have is that I will be true to her! I will be what I am ! I am going to share my priorities , my routine & my correct nature ! But the biggest confusion is that how to judge someone from the very first meeting ? The purity of heart or trueness can't be judged from FB profiles or pictures. It has to be understood from meeting ! I think , the counterpart must be under going the same mental situation ! God only knows.... He will only help in taking the right decision. This is the real beauty of an arrange marriage, only the god can help, no one else ! 

A ray of positive feeling & happiness is also coming in ! Waiting for the next sunday to come ! Waiting to see what happens next ! Little confused , little happy , little stressed & little futuristic are all my current feelings. At the end , I would like to close by quoting......

"Dilon Mein Tum Apni Betaabiyan Leke Chal Rahe Ho, Toh Zinda Ho Tum,Nazaro Mein Khwabo Ki Bijliyan Leke Chal Rahe Ho, Toh Zinda Ho Tum,Hawa Ke Jhokon Ke Jaise Aazad Rehna Seekho,Tum Ek Dariya Ke Jaise Lehron Mein Behna Seekho, Har Ek Lamhe Se Tum Milo Khole Apni Baahein,Har Ek Pal Ek Naya Samaa Dekhe ye nigahen, Jo Apni Aankhon Mein Hairaniya Leke Chal Rahe Ho, Toh Zinda Ho Tum, Dilo Mein Tum Apni Betaabiyan Leke Chal Rahe Ho, Toh Zinda Ho Tum"

(Courtesy Farhan Akhtar - Zindgi Na Milegi Dobara.)


Rgds,
Nirav Ajmera

O Dear President Heart - Please reject the mercy petition of our inside Afzal Guru & Ajmal Kasab

Its been long since I blogged last time. Weeks passed by, events took place. They passed like a fraction of a second. Completion of two huge marriage events in family.Successful end to the new job hunt & now a sudden silence after eventful ceremonies. Sometimes it feels that we should stop working & keep ourselves involved in family only. With family we feel so comfortable & so protected. Life feels complete but this feeling doesn't last longer, have to get back to work & reality. We have to get back to routine & ruthless life. Sad but true. 

This week ended with successful end of a ruthless terrorist. After 12 years, the master mind was hanged till death. This move from the government is worth welcoming but it's very late. Is it not a big question to our democracy that someone has got the audacity to attack the safest place of the subcontinent. Fortunately they failed in just 14 minutes but the final verdict took 12 long years & that too after spending corers of iNR. Anyways it is said, that all is well if end is well. The mastermind went asleep forever in the lands of Tihad jail.

My today's blog is little like terrorism only. Its dedicated to our feelings & about the artificial fear which kills our feelings. We are really very timid animals. We really are afraid of so many things in life, of course I am one of the "we" group.In this fear we fail to innovate, change & stay happy & believe me this fear has no real physical existence, if we can break this , we can really be the most happiest persons on the earth. This phenomenon is actually realized by me by a very small incident. In our college days we were the group of 4. Me & 3 pretty ladies. We were quite enthusiastic & continuously taking part in various events. This time we took the assignment of preparing a small film for social awareness purpose. The theme sounded excellent but the collection of pics for the theme was damn difficult , we ventured around the entire city & clicked various pics, but we were little dissatisfied, the railway station was our last destination, we thought to stop our picture hunt for that Sunday. We were clicking some pics of the train, suddenly Karima asked us to get on the train & get down at the next station. We could not understand, actually we were stunned by her demand, because we were exactly not even knowing in which direction the train was going. But truly speaking at the bottom of our heart we all wanted to get on the train & enjoy an unexpected trip with the remaining 3 buddies. But Karima was the only one who had the audacity to initiate the proposal in front of us. With fear in mind we got in the train. I insisted several times on taking the tickets but the rest 3 ladies with me were fearless & were in mood to travel without tickets for almost 70 KMS. We were now on the train & in our own fun. We were loving one another's company. We kept on changing the bogies in the fear of being caught for traveling without ticket. We thought we will be able to escape from the TCs eyes. But we were wrong, the destiny had in stored something different for us. A TC caught us traveling & changing bogies many a times, so he caught hold of us & demanded the tickets. We confessed , lied & what not tried but we could not convince him. He took me alone to the next boggy as I was the only gentlemen in the group. Approx a team of 8 TCs were sitting & he took me & explained everything. Believe me the gang of 8 TCs humiliated me like hell by their words for 30 minutes & finally charged me 1200 INR for traveling without tickets. The irony of the situation was that the fearless ladies were safe. They did not even have to listen to a single word. Lucky they !!!! Anyways after paying 1200 Rs , I was much relaxed. I learnt a lesson that never to travel without ticket in the train, but I learnt even a bigger lesson that we should always do what we feel like doing. Though I had to hear so many things & lost almost 6 times more money than actual tickets but I could create a lifetime memory & felt satisfied that we did what we felt right. Though it was legally incorrect but this was not a crime , being happy is not a crime. We must understand to follow our heart. For this we should think from heart because mind can think only on a straight line & is too biased by our past experiences, education & etc. But heart can think beyond horizons & can bring innovations. Sometimes it is damn important to leave linearity & think in a haphazard manner. Think about it.....!!!

With this I would like to close my weekend, tomorrow is a new day & will try to be regular from next week onwards on running, writing & office affairs, after being disturbed from the routine because of some obvious reasons.

Rgds,
Nirav Ajmera

Change An Inevitable & Positive Agent.....

Scene 1 :

It was 11.45 in the morning, Abhimanyu was rushing for the lunch, Hits was still staring at the water & was not sure whether he would prefer taking bath or not. Aunty was serving hot chapatis & we were on verge of leaving for college. It was July & just the initial season of rains. All of a sudden a drizzle of rains & the entire scene was changed. A little rains & no college now. All set for a movie show at home. Abhi , opened the collections of DVDs & selected the movie & we started a late lunch movie show. Hits was also happy as his bath was postponed for some hours. Full afternoon movie & then outing. This was a day of our graduation life.

Scene 2 :

Early morning 7.00 , Abhi kicking on the bums of Hits to bring newspaper to read. Waking up with ease, getting ready for 8.00 clock class. Reaching college at 8.05 or 10 or 15, depending upon the lecturer. . Two lectures & oh god it was too much of college. Coming home or roaming out. Then lunch & all set for project work. Welcoming approximately 15 people at flat, turning the flat into a small village of buddies. Almost 10 laptops working at home, most of them downloading some songs or movies or busy surfing on social networking sites. Hardly 3 sincere project workers, 3-4 busy preparing food for the crowd & rest all in their own world. Working the same way till late night, landlord getting angry but mattering the least to the crowd & to three of us. This was a typical day of our MBA life.

Scene 3 :

Waking up @ 7.30 in the morning. Hell lot of hang over of previous day. A disturbed mind with lots of confusion & lots of pressure of the day. Going for running. Reading newspaper & discussing today's probable stock market move. Rushing to office & taking a breakfast in hurry in the fear of a late swipe in at office. Full day mails & fights,late office sittings & coming home with dissatisfaction. Fear of the same routine the next day. Dinner, big boss & sleep. This is the typical & the most common day of any corporate human being.

Life definitely changes, the life 5 years back was much different. It was much peaceful & much easy going life. But this life has money & status. Unfortunately no time to spend such hardly earned money. This actually is the real & the biggest Irony of life. We human beings are the biggest hypocrites & situation oriented, we forget to assess & understand the real happiness of life. We say that we hate such life but we keep on digging ourselves deeper & deeper into it. We don't like our office life getting disturbed by any external factor, whether it's a wedding of a close relative or someone's deteriorating health at home or an outing/trip planned by a buddy. No doubt we don't miss a business trip or a company outing, because we have to attend it by compulsion.

We have to bring changes on a routine basis, we have to come out of our shell. We must come out of work. Because work is just a part of life , it's not the life.We must bring small small changes in life which can make us happy. It's a real stress buster !!! We can relate & understand it from our own past life. We were much happy because college life had change on a daily basis. Change is really inevitable & positive for us.

The week was full of changes & the coming week will bring about even bigger changes. Because now I, myself is understanding the importance of change & allowing it to drive in my life & trying to adopt it. As it brings about growth & refreshes our mind.

One of the changes is the absence of Big Boss season 6 at 9 PM from now onwards. At the end of the season, loved the results, truly wished the defeat of Mr Imam & fortunately it happened. A wonderful & very entertaining show has come to an end.

With such philosophical note , I wish to close my day & my week. Monday is Uttarayan & then again a new week will commence.

Good night & Have a happy & safe Uttarayan.

Rgds,
Nirav Ajmera